I have to admit that I’ve discovered my husband’s infidelity. Reflecting on the past, I’ve begun to realize seven overlooked details that indicate his betrayal.
1.Deleting communication messages
I noticed that he started deleting communication messages, especially interactions with another person. Every time I caught a glimpse of his fingers swiftly swiping and deleting message after message on his phone screen, my doubts and pain deepened. Confronted with this harsh reality, I feel hurt and betrayed. I no longer believe every word and promise he utters.
2.Lack of interest in flirting with you
I’ve tried various ways to pique his interest and reignite that passion, but no matter how hard I try, he shows no interest in flirting with me or acknowledging my sensuality.
3.Becoming secretive about his whereabouts
His whereabouts have become secretive and mysterious. He frequently makes excuses to leave home, unwilling to disclose his specific activities and location. Whenever I ask him where he’s going or what he’s doing, he always evades the question and avoids giving a direct answer. I can sense that he’s lying, which has made me start to suspect if he’s betraying me.
4.Increase in criticism and complaints towards you
He has started being constantly critical and complaining towards me, seemingly finding every opportunity to blame me. Whether it’s my appearance, personality, or daily behavior, he can find faults and point them out without mercy. He has become increasingly nitpicky and critical towards me, in terms of both my appearance, personality, and daily behavior.
I gradually realize that this is not a personal issue of mine. His criticism and complaints are merely his attempt to cover up his infidelity. He needs to find reasons to rationalize his behavior and alleviate his guilt.
5.Unusual and frequent expenses with strange reasons
I used to believe that our marriage was transparent enough. We used to create budgets together and make joint decisions on how to manage our finances. However, later on, I started noticing that his expenses became unusually strange. He started spending large amounts of money with various inexplicable reasons. He purchased expensive items, participated in peculiar activities, and even went on unnecessary trips. Whenever I asked him about the reasons behind his expenses, he always hesitated to explain to me.
6.Making significant decisions without consulting your opinion
In the early stages of our marriage, we would sit down and discuss important matters, listen to each other’s opinions, and make plans together. However, during that time, he started making significant decisions on his own. I realized that I was being marginalized, and my voice was being ignored.
7.Contradictions in words multiple times
His words started becoming inconsistent, seemingly trying to cover up his relationship with another person. Whenever I raised questions or expressed concerns about his behavior, he would give different explanations and excuses, trying to quickly end the conversation on that topic.
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