In this long journey of life, I have traversed nearly forty cycles of seasons. As I reflect upon these decades of experiences, I have discovered eight crucial life lessons. These insights act as guiding lights, illuminating the path ahead of me. If I had possessed this wisdom earlier, perhaps I could have avoided some detours on my life’s journey.
1.Trust your intuition
In this intricate and complex world, we often find ourselves entangled in external opinions and expectations, losing sight of our own direction. However, when we quiet our minds and listen to that faint yet resolute voice, we discover that our inner selves already hold the answers. It is an intuition, an unexplainable instinct that is inherent within us from birth.
When faced with choices, it is vital to trust our intuition. It grants us courage and aids in making the right decisions. It may elude rational thinking and logical deduction, yet it possesses an undeniable power. Do not fear trusting your feelings, even if they contradict the voices from the outside world.
2.Do not compromise your principles for anyone
At times, we encounter various temptations and choices. Some may attempt to alter your principles, urging you to compromise your true self and firm beliefs. Remember, your principles are the most precious treasures within your heart. They represent your authentic self and unwavering convictions. When you remain loyal to your principles, you will experience inner peace and fulfillment, as you have not betrayed your soul.
3.Do not make excuses for anyone displaying warning signs
We are often driven by love, sympathy, and hope, wanting to believe in the potential for change in every person. However, the reality is that certain warning signs exhibited by individuals cannot be ignored. They may demonstrate disrespect towards you, possess controlling tendencies, show signs of violence, or engage in other unhealthy behaviors. These signals serve as internal alarms, reminding you to protect yourself.
Do not make excuses for these individuals. Do not believe that you can save them through love, patience, or changing yourself. Such notions will only entangle you further in distress.
4.Do not let anyone control you
Each of us desires to be understood and accepted, and sometimes we may lean towards conforming to others’ expectations or sacrificing our own opinions. However, remember that you are an independent individual, and you don’t need to give up your true thoughts to please others. Don’t let anyone manipulate your decisions and actions; your worth is not determined by the approval of others.
5.Speak up bravely in the face of injustice, bullying, or abuse
If you experience unfair treatment, bullying, or abuse, don’t hesitate to stand up, speak out about your feelings and experiences, seek help and support, and let those who harm you know that their actions are wrong and have consequences. You deserve respect and care, and you should not tolerate any harm inflicted upon you.
6.Observe how they generally treat others
People’s behavior often reflects their true nature. Pay attention to how the people you interact with treat others. If they are indifferent or lack empathy towards vulnerable groups or those in need, it may indicate that they would also lack care and support for you when you face difficulties. In simple terms: if they are “nice” to you but not to others, they will eventually be unkind to you as well.
7.Do not fear solitude
Moments of solitude in life are not frightening; they are opportunities for us to have a dialogue with our inner selves, to search for our true selves and explore our inner world. In moments of solitude, you can reflect on past experiences, examine your growth and achievements. You can also confront inner challenges and pain, seeking solutions and inner healing. This process may bring some discomfort, but it will also make you stronger, more thoughtful, and help you find the true direction for your life.
8.You are the only person who truly matters
People may pressure you, hurt you, or even try to destroy you, but they don’t truly know who you are, who you used to be, and where you are headed. This is the reality we must accept. However, remember that each day is a fresh start, and you are the only person who truly needs to engage with yourself. Therefore, you are indeed the only person who truly matters.